In this paper we show the ways love and bullying appear in mathematical communications. We developed an analytic frame that distinguished between responsiveness and dismissiveness, and that identified whether communication acts opened dialogue or closed off the voices of others. The frame helped us identify what authority was used to close dialogue, and how dialogue was opened up as well. The findings allowed us to illustrate how responsiveness and opening up dialogue are central to love and mathematically productive, but also to problematize this argument.