Against the heteronormativity of the increasing field of studies around intergenerationalfamily relations within asset-based welfare systems, the paper analyses the housing pathwaysof lesbian and gay young people, focusing on family intergenerational relations and theimplications concerning emotional, private and sexual life. The paper focuses on Greece andItaly, two countries characterized by the so-called ‘Southern European’ model of welfaresystem centred around the family. Given the persistence of homo/lesbophobia, this processpushes lesbian and gay youth to negotiate between housing choices and personal lives inambivalent ways. The housing strategies analysed are regrouped into four categories: i) thereturn to the family house; ii) the dependence on the family of origin to buy or rent; iii)international migration to be more autonomous; iv) the experience of alternative housingmodels, mostly squatting, or sharing (including Airbnb). Our categorization must not beinterpreted as fixed or immutable since people might try different solutions over time.